I've been one of those who is very opinionated about how children behave. I whined about how some children kept running around in the hospital when I went to my gynaecologist while pregnant. Only after Baby G came along, I have come to realise that there are some things that your strong willed baby will want to do and one just cannot put a stop to it. One just gives in to what the baby asks for and watches patiently, or maybe not.
Running around, screaming, shouting in public transport etc is just what children do. It's what children are meant to do. They are programmed to not understand common courtesy, they are natural. To me, even now, a child urinating in public, bullying another child, spitting etc in public is a big no no. I would judge the parent a lot and dislike the child immediately. Yeah, I'm like that. A child needs to understand what is ok and what is not.
There is an episode on Friends where Ross doesn't like his son playing with a Barbie. I kind of met someone recently on those lines. Highly opinionated, she mentioned her boy liked superheroes and she bought all his things in those themes. During the conversation, she mentioned that she knew a boy her son' sage who carried around a Hannah Montana bag to school. For a moment there, I blinked. So what? Aren't we the one buying pink and blue and claiming these colours are for these genders? Don't these kids get to carry around or wear what they want? This conversation reminded me of an argument I had with my associate in Google a few years ago. To him, reading Harry Potter was stupid. Playing FarmVille was stupid. Although, reading some sci-fi trilogy was ok and playing GTA was ok. It was a never ending conversation. I ended it saying, reading this book makes me happy just like how you feel happy reading yours. Playing this game is my stress buster, same as you. We were both reading fiction and playing virtual games. Who were we to judge.
It's unfair to stop a child from doing something they want to. We learn from our mistakes. A mommy who joins her child is a mommy who understands and evolves.
Running around, screaming, shouting in public transport etc is just what children do. It's what children are meant to do. They are programmed to not understand common courtesy, they are natural. To me, even now, a child urinating in public, bullying another child, spitting etc in public is a big no no. I would judge the parent a lot and dislike the child immediately. Yeah, I'm like that. A child needs to understand what is ok and what is not.
There is an episode on Friends where Ross doesn't like his son playing with a Barbie. I kind of met someone recently on those lines. Highly opinionated, she mentioned her boy liked superheroes and she bought all his things in those themes. During the conversation, she mentioned that she knew a boy her son' sage who carried around a Hannah Montana bag to school. For a moment there, I blinked. So what? Aren't we the one buying pink and blue and claiming these colours are for these genders? Don't these kids get to carry around or wear what they want? This conversation reminded me of an argument I had with my associate in Google a few years ago. To him, reading Harry Potter was stupid. Playing FarmVille was stupid. Although, reading some sci-fi trilogy was ok and playing GTA was ok. It was a never ending conversation. I ended it saying, reading this book makes me happy just like how you feel happy reading yours. Playing this game is my stress buster, same as you. We were both reading fiction and playing virtual games. Who were we to judge.
It's unfair to stop a child from doing something they want to. We learn from our mistakes. A mommy who joins her child is a mommy who understands and evolves.
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